Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) was created by Susan Johnson, Ph.D. and has been studied for over 25 years. It is based on the evidence-based theory that emotional bonding and attachment is one of our deepest instincts and most basic needs for survival. When these needs aren’t being met, a strong, negative cycle between two people can get triggered. And when relationships are helped to shift to a more secure and safe dynamic, then cycles become more positive, connected and nurturing. Not only does close bonding feel more satisfying, but such relationships buffer us from life’s stresses, psychological distress and physical illness.
EFT is well-researched and has been demonstrated to be extremely successful with couples of various ages, cultures, educational levels, sexual orientations and stages of a relationship. It has been shown to be effective with couples dealing with external stressors, major life transitions, medical illnesses, grief and loss, PTSD, and depression. EFT is also helpful to couples who are trying to recover from betrayals or are at the brink of separation.
Research has found that approximately 90% of couples who do EFT therapy show significant improvements, and 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery. EFT has also been shown to improve problem-solving skills, depression, intimacy and trust in couples, as well as to resolve and create forgiveness after betrayals and other relationship injuries.
Couples oftentimes get caught in negative vicious cycles, which interfere with communicating effectively or resolving disagreements. EFT focuses on identifying and unraveling the feelings, thoughts and behaviors that underlie couples' typical negative cycles. In so doing, couples are better able to express themselves, hear and understand each other and then shift these negative cycles and develop more constructive interactions. These more positive dynamics and effective communications between partners restore hope and help create a more safe, connected and secure relationship.
